FACE YOUR ANGER – IMPROVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP
It might have been Carl Jung (post-Freud) – a open minded psychiatrist that contributed a lot to the world of psychology – that once said: “It might be healthy to kill one person a day in your mind.”
That meaning – when dealing with your anger toward what people did/said/acted – it might be better to eliminate that person from your mind, so you can start to heal the hurt that person caused.
HOW DOES YOUR ANGER SHOW UP FOR YOU?
Behind all the anger you hold inside, there are hidden emotional pains and hurt.
It does not matter if the hurt came from your childhood, your parents failed you, you suffered trauma, life “wronged” you, or the hurt came from your own doing. That pain continues there.
And that hurt can be triggered by anything:
- a memory,
- an emotion,
- a look,
- a tone of voice
You might not need much to get triggered. Couples usually can trigger each other – knowingly or not.
HOW TO HEAL FROM THAT ANGER
The moment you start developing a greater honesty about the experience that led to the hurt, the sooner you will learn to acknowledge anger, fear, guilt, rejection, etc.
There are many ways to sit with that hurt: by getting help from a professional (ie. psychologist), exercising forgiveness (a process YOU let go of the pain – as opposed to let the person who hurt you off the hook), or learning to observe the experience as an outsider – to have a different perspective of your experience.
The moment you apply yourself to look inwards, learn to understand all parts of yourself, your relationship with your loved one will improve.
You will no longer allow yourself to be triggered, bothered, or attacked to where you’d feel the need to react with anger.
You will be open to clear and kind communication where you won’t feel attacked.
How you act in all your life situation, it is up to YOU! You control yourself and yourself only.
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